Dating Culture

Dating culture refers to the modern behavioral norms, rituals, and expectations surrounding romantic or sexual relationships, especially in Western societies. Unlike society’s claims, it is far from being about connection or compatibility. Dating culture is primarily a superficial sorting mechanism where power, looks, and performative normalcy dictate one’s worth and access to intimacy.

Overview

Heterosexual dating was never about love. It was ownership repackaged, where women were traded like livestock, first between fathers and husbands, now between DMs and dates. Whether through dowries or dating apps, the expectation stays the same: a woman must present herself to be claimed. Her value is measured by obedience, beauty, and how well she can suppress her autonomy without making men feel threatened.

Implications for femcels

Dating culture is optimized to erase and humiliate unattractive women. Femcels are the unacknowledged collateral damage of this system. They are too real to be fetishized, but too invisible to be chosen.

While unattractive men are pitied or platformed as underdogs, unattractive women are discarded or demonized. They are either mocked for trying (“delusional”) or mocked for withdrawing (“bitter”). People claim that they can get a loving relationship easily, but this is far from the truth.