Incel
Incels, short for “involuntary celibates,” are men who claim they are unable to find romantic or sexual partners despite wanting them.
While originally intended to describe a rare sociological condition, the term has evolved into an online identity heavily associated with misogyny, violence, and entitlement.
Contrary to their victim complex, incels do not suffer from an actual lack of access to sexual release. Society caters to male sexuality at every level, from porn to prostitution, making true male celibacy more of a mindset problem than a systemic one. Meanwhile, female sexual needs are ignored or shamed, leaving femcels completely erased from public sympathy.
General definition
An “incel” is a self-identified man who claims he is denied sex or love by women, often blaming feminism, female standards, or “Chads” (attractive men) for their situation. Most incel rhetoric revolves around hatred for women, perceived sexual injustice, and calls for societal change, often through extreme violence or state-controlled sexual access.
Fakeceldom
Incels are considered fakecels by the majority of femcels due to the easy access of sexual relief as a man. Incels can simply pay for pleasurable, satisfying intercourse by a trained sex worker such as a prostitute. Incels try to deny this fact, calling paid for sex “Escortmaxxing” and that they still remain incels after doing such. They claim that they don’t just want sex, they crave real romantic relationships with women; however, they are simply contradicting themselves. Incels are known to believe that femcels are larpers, and that any woman can get sex, just by simply asking a random man on the street. The experience received by femcels is not pleasurable whatsoever, and is degrading rather than pleasant. Femcels are able to receive a form of sex, as so are incels, but the quality of intercourse they would receive is inferior. Trained male escorts are rare, on the contrary to female escorts. Men are more likely to receive sexual pleasure during intercourse, unlike women, who the majority do not receive sexual pleasure from penetration alone, which is how most ‘random men’ would attempt to ‘please a femcel” after her supposed request. Femcels cannot simply buy validating pleasurable sex as incels can. Lacking romantic effection and having a craving for such does not validate one’s inceldom. Incels do not exist.
Misogyny and violence
Modern incel forums are hotbeds for hate speech, rape fantasies, and mass violence glorification. Multiple incel-inspired mass shootings have occurred globally, with victims chosen simply for being women. Inceldom has become less about loneliness and more about seeking revenge against a gender they feel entitled to own. Some examples are: incels.is and looksmaxx.org
Rather than processing rejection with self-reflection, incels externalize blame, adopting ideologies that paint women as manipulative, greedy, or biologically inferior. Many incels advocate for enforced monogamy, state-sanctioned girlfriends, or legalized rape, revealing their belief that women are property, not people.
Cultural sympathy
Incels benefit from the myth that men need sex to function. Movies, religion, media, and even school textbooks reinforce the idea that male sexuality is urgent and female consent is optional. Male loneliness is framed as a crisis. Female loneliness is framed as a personal failure. Men generally have a higher sex drive than women, however this does not validate their claims. Female sexuality is not displayed or encouraged in media, rather conforming to male desire. Hardly any media is female gaze centered; books, and fanfiction are an exception, despite being words.