A pick me girl is a woman who adopts male-serving attitudes and behaviors in a desperate attempt to gain male approval. She distances herself from other women, often by demeaning them, and performs submission, humility, or “chillness” to appeal to male egos. Her entire personality revolves around being the exception, being “not like other girls,” in hopes of being chosen in a system that throws scraps to the most obedient female.[1]
Definition
A pick me girl is essentially a self-hating woman. She is willing to betray other women, downplay her own discomfort, and cater to male fantasies, all to be temporarily tolerated by a demographic that sees her as disposable. She cosplays as “one of the boys,” calls herself “low maintenance,” or parrots incel-tier talking points.[2]
Behavior
Pick me girls are characterized by the following behaviors:
- Publicly degrading other women, especially feminists or “hoes”[3]
- Taking pride in cooking, cleaning, or tolerating abuse without complaint[4]
- Laughing at sexist jokes to seem cool or “chill”[5]
- Denying their own needs and boundaries[6]
- Criticizing women for wearing makeup, while secretly wearing it themselves[7]
- Idolizing male streamers, YouTubers, or Reddit users and parroting their talking points[8]
See also
References
- ↑ Manne, Kate. Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny. Oxford University Press, 2018.
- ↑ Banet-Weiser, Sarah. Empowered: Popular Feminism and Popular Misogyny. Duke University Press, 2018.
- ↑ Rivers, Nicola, and Rosalind Gill. “The Notion of ‘Not Like Other Girls’: Contemporary Girls’ Cultures and the Paradox of Differentiation.” Girlhood Studies, vol. 9, no. 1, 2016, pp. 37–53.
- ↑ Hochschild, Arlie, and Anne Machung. The Second Shift: Working Families and the Revolution at Home. Penguin, 2012.
- ↑ Ford, Thomas E., et al. “Effects of Exposure to Sexist Humor on Tolerance of Hostile Sexist Events.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, vol. 34, no. 12, 2008, pp. 159–170.
- ↑ Gill, Rosalind. “Postfeminist Media Culture: Elements of a Sensibility.” European Journal of Cultural Studies, vol. 10, no. 2, 2007, pp. 147–166.
- ↑ Wolf, Naomi. The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women. Harper Perennial, 2002.
- ↑ Banet-Weiser, Sarah, and Kathryn Claire Higgins. “#MeToo and the Promise and Pitfalls of Challenging Rape Culture through Digital Feminist Activism.” European Journal of Women’s Studies, vol. 26, no. 2, 2019, pp. 214–227.